Tuesday, July 31, 2012

July 31

If you feel like you are not getting the love and respect out you deserve out of a relationship, you can seek help.  There are organizations that will help you.


Well, I am not in a relationship so I really don't have this problem.  Lucky me!


"Deceiving others.  That is what the world calls romance."
Oscar Wilde

Monday, July 30, 2012

July 30

Tell yourself you are strong enough to forgive someone.


A couple days ago a friend informed me that her dad thought I was a grudge holder.  Why she shared this, I have no idea.  However, when I looked up at my other friends, no one disputed it.  On the contrary, they all said I do.  I have never thought that I hold grudges.  I can usually remember what people have done to me namely because I am particularly good at remembering horrifically embarrassing moments (it's a selective gift).  However, I don't hold things against people.  I suppose it is good for us to hear what people think of us every once awhile but that was quite a shock.  Still, I think I am good at forgiving people so I will continue in  my flawed ways.  My friend's dad can suck it!


Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much.
Oscar Wilde

July 29

Always make time to read.


Today was my birthday.  No one in the world does birthdays better than my mom and sister.  I received wonderful gifts (including movies and chocolate) and spent a wonderful day with my sister just having fun.  I think birthdays should always be very special days, whether you have to coordinate them yourself or not.


Anyway, I am always surprised when someone tells me they don't have time to read.  That is simply not true; I don't care how busy you are.  You can always make time.


"If one cannot enjoy reading a book over and over again, there is no use in reading it at all."
Oscar Wilde

Saturday, July 28, 2012

July 28

Do something today that you wouldn't do if you were a mature grown up.


I have no trouble at all acting immature; in fact I would consider this my area of expertise.  I love games, goofing off, and calling people fart faces.  I cannot take total credit for my maturity since I grew up in a remarkably silly family.  Today I plan on laughing a lot and being enthusiastic about ordinary things.  If no one carts me off to a facility for this behavior, you shall hear from me tomorrow.


"The pursuit of truth and beauty is a sphere of activity in which we are permitted to remain children all our lives."
Albert Einstein

Friday, July 27, 2012

July 27

Schedule a time today for a walk.


Waaaah.  I don't wanna!  I live in an area where there are no sidewalks and fast cars.  Thankfully, I am not suicidal so I have no urge to go out there in the sweltering heat.  I do like taking walks in the fall when it is cool and pretty.  To compromise, I will take several walks to the kitchen today.  I make so many sacrifices for this blog.


"Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light."
Helen Keller

Thursday, July 26, 2012

July 26

Think about a potentially nerve wracking situation that you may be presented with in the future.  Decide now how you will handle it.


Next time I get lost I will

  • Take deep breaths
  • Pull into a safe establishment and decide what my next move will be
  • Get oriented by looking at several maps
  • Make sure I fully understand the steps of my new directions, not just the first one
"Many a calm river begins as a turbulent waterfall, yet none hurtles and foams all the way to the sea."
Mikhail Lermontov

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

July 25

Spend fifteen minutes today cleaning.


As I look around right now I have money strewn across the floor, several books on my desk and lap, and piles of laundry to do.  However, because I will fully commit my fifteen minutes after I write this post.  Jeesh, it is like my mother is writing these messages...


"I've always had the impression that real militants are like cleaning women, doing a thankless, daily but necessary job."
Francis Truffaut

July 24

Say no today to one ridiculous request.  This does not make you a bad person.


I have been on the road most of the day so I have not been confronted with too many ridiculous task requests.  I will just pretend that someone asked me to dance around in an orange jump suit to the song "I Wanna Sex You Up".  NO, imaginary person!


And it comes from saying no to 1,000 things to make sure we don't get on the wrong track or try to do too much. We're always thinking about new markets we could enter, but it's only by saying no that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.
Steve Jobs

July 23

Create a hideout that only you know about.


Well, if I told you where my hideout was it wouldn't be a secret anymore, would it?  However, I will give you a hint.  It is surround by books, warm drinks, and silence.  I often envy kids because it is still socially acceptable for them to make pillow forts.  I do think it is important to always have a hideout; it can be quite a comfort for you to always know it is there.


“In the wide pile, by others heeded not,
Hers was one sacred solitary spot,
Whose gloomy aisles and bending shelves contain
For moral hunger food, and cures for moral pain.” 

Walter Scott

Sunday, July 22, 2012

July 22

Really think about how you spend the minutes of each day.


I read in a book somewhere that for one day, you should mark down every minute of the day as it passes.  I suppose it supposed to be eye-opening.  To me, it sounds incredibly tedious.  However, the sentiment makes sense.  It is almost scary to think what a large portion of your life you spend doing simple things like brushing your teeth or making your bed.  Really appreciate the moments today.


"Well, yes, ma'am, I do... I mean, I got everything I need right here with me. I got air in my lungs, a few blank sheets of paper. I mean, I love waking up in the morning not knowing what's gonna happen or, who I'm gonna meet, where I'm gonna wind up. Just the other night I was sleeping under a bridge and now here I am on the grandest ship in the world having champagne with you fine people. I figure life's a gift and I don't intend on wasting it. You don't know what hand you're gonna get dealt next. You learn to take life as it comes at you... to make each day count."
Jack Dawson, Titanic (yeah, I went there)

July 21

STRETCH!

I really hate stretching since I am about as flexible as a two by four.  However, for the sake of this blog, I will oblige.  Just did a twist.  I am awesome.


"Don't keep reaching for the stars because you'll just look like an idiot stretching that way for no reason."
Jimmy Fallon

July 20

Be kind to someone who is sad today.


I haven't come across a sad person today, mostly because I have been hiding from the world like  Obi Wan Kenobi.  I guess I am a little down in the dumps today so I will cheer myself up with this:
That's better.

"The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer someone else up."
Mark Twain

July 19

Apologize to yourself for being harsh.  Say something nice about yourself.


All right, Amanda, it is time we had a chat.  I apologize for being harsh to you about not being active after your surgery.  You are way too pretty to have to do anything for yourself. Also, you handled the surgery well.


"To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man."
William Shakespeare (also Clueless)

July 18

Take responsibility for your choices.  Do not blame anyone else.


You might have noticed that recently I have not been able to shut up about my surgery, and this post will be no exception.  I often have felt that it is extremely unfair that I have a bone disease that one in a hundred thousand people have.  It is, of course, but my body is still in my domain of power.  I can control how I handle the stress and the pain.  Sometimes I even think that I wouldn't change my bones if I could because they are uniquely mine and they have probably made me a more empathetic person than I would have been.


"Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility."
Sigmund Freud

July 17

Look at today as though it is an opportunity to improve yourself.


Sorry about the hiatus but ever since my surgery I have little inkling to do anything but lie down, read, or work on jigsaw puzzles (this is only slightly different than my normal routine at any rate).  However, today I am pushing myself to at least get a few things done, including packing for a trip to Michigan.


Yesterday was a great opportunity for me because I believe I nailed a job interview by being delightfully quirky. Today is another glorious opportunity because I will get to see my relatives and laugh a lot.


"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty."
Winston Churchill

Monday, July 16, 2012

July 16

Stay away from people that hurt others.


All right, so I have written a bunch of these today and I want to keep this one short.  I feel like I have addressed hurtful friends in earlier posts so I will just leave with some quotes.


"A single rose can be my garden...a single friend, my world."
Leo Buscaglia


"Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies."
Aristotle

July 15

Step up and deal with your money problems.


I have recently had some cash flow problems.  I am not a huge spender except when it comes to books and movies.  I think there are going to be times when your cash flow is going to fluctuate and as long as you are responsible you will come out all right.  At least, that is what I am telling myself.


"The lack of money is the root of all evil."
Mark Twain

July 14

Think of something you are worried about.  Ask yourself: can I do anything about this?  what would be a healthy way to handle this so I can let go?  Take deep breaths.


I constantly worry about my romantic life (or lack there of).

  • I could potentially talk to more guys but considering the last encounter I am a little gun shy.  I was trying to impress a certain attractive blond and proceeded to detail my vomit history from about four years ago to present day.  You read that correctly.
  • A healthy way to handle this would be to put myself out there more.
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” 
Dalai Lama XIV

July 13

Do something that requires strength.


Awhile ago, my sister and I made before 30 bucket lists.  I highly recommend making bucket lists since it is a great motivating.  Our lists are comprised of a hundred things that will push out of our comfort zone and can only be accomplished by us (i.e. get married would not be on the list since that resides in another person's control as well as ours).  One of the things on my list is to exercise everyday for a month which I will be attempting to complete in August.  This will be incredibly hard for me since I would rather use the Machine from The Princess Bride than spend an extended amount of time on the elliptical.  Still, I will attempt to make it work!

Leave all the afternoon for exercise and recreation, which are as necessary as reading. I will rather say more necessary because health is worth more than learning.Thomas Jefferson

July 12

Laugh.


During my invalid stages, my sister, aunt (especially when she fell out of a chair), and mom have been a constant source of laughter for me.  I also started watching Parks and Recreation which is an extremely funny show.  Here are some funny sites that will make you laugh:
http://howdoiputthisgently.tumblr.com/

http://whatshouldwecallme.tumblr.com/

"A day without laughter is a day wasted."
Charlie Chaplin


"Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand."
Mark Twain

July 11

Take a day off.


I am back from a rather painful hand surgery.  It certainly wasn't pleasant but I have been through worse.  Today is the first day that I am going back to my normal routine.  My days off have been spent lying in bed taking a ridiculous amount of naps and being in pain.  Today, I would actually rather get some tasks done but I might call it an early night.  Good to be back.
AMANDA

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

July 10

Make a one hour date with yourself.


Yesterday I got a one hour massage which was really relaxing.  Sometimes, it is scary to just be alone with your thoughts for an extended period of time.  At night when I am going to sleep is usually the scariest time for me because it is when I worry the most.  However, if we shut ourselves out, we will not know what we need or want.


Sorry I can't write more; I am a bit of a nervous wreck today.


"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."
Albert Einstein

Monday, July 9, 2012

July 9

Look for a way to help other women today.


So Brie has officially quit (probably due to my excessive pushing).  I am flying solo now, which is unfortunate because my posts are quite short.  Of course, if people keep commenting it will help to make posts more interesting and diverse.


Helping women seems to be quite the recurring theme in this book.  Today I attempted to help by just listening; the women in my life each have a lot going on right now.  Some people are simply not good at listening.  My sister, mom, and I have a way to prevent this.  When a listener is not giving a talker the reaction they were hoping for, the talker simply says "redo".   The listener then has to alter their reaction until it is satisfying to the talker.  There is a fine art to these things. 


Since it is no longer necessary for me to sign my posts, I will end with an inspirational quote:


"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."
Leo Buscaglia

Sunday, July 8, 2012

July 8

Play today.  Stop taking everything so seriously.


Last night, I went to a movie night that was actually a lot of fun with some old and new friends.  I also think I have established a firm guy friendship, which was one of my resolutions.  Unfortunately, all the other resolutions have kinda gone to shit but hey, 1 out of 10!

Anyway, I haven't actually played in awhile.  I do play Freecell and Spider Solitaire whenever I should be doing actual work but that is too mature for my taste today.  I really love board games and might pull one out today and I suggest you do the same.
AMANDA

Saturday, July 7, 2012

July 7

Aim for a few minutes of the day to be positive.


I use to find it extremely hard to be positive for even a couple seconds but I have gotten better at it over the past few months (partly because of this blog:)).  I think that it is not only detrimental to yourself to be negative but it is also annoying to the people around you.  I have also found that if you try to be positive to a negative person, they think you are the most loathsome thing they have ever encountered.  Don't be one of those people!
AMANDA

Friday, July 6, 2012

July 6

Enjoy the world with all its improvements.


This is a constant argument between my brother and me; I once said that I wished I was in the nineties and he nearly died.  I once read that people interested in science should read the latest things (him) and people interested in English should read the oldest things (me).  Since I fall in the latter category (I am also constantly watching old movies and listening to old music) I suppose it is natural for me to have some doubt about what era I would like to live in.  I do know that, rationally, medicine and technology has greatly improved.  Is there some part of me that wishes that I was walking the moors of England in a dress with my drawing master?  Maybe, but I think I am overall grateful for when I live.
AMANDA

Thursday, July 5, 2012

July 5

Tell yourself you are perfect and fabulous.


I AM PERFECT AND FABULOUS!  I am going to take this a little further and remind all the women in my life today that they fit the p and f quota.
AMANDA

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

July 4

Claim one bit of your house as completely your own.  Ban all others.


First of all, happy Independence Day! My family doesn't eat meat so this holiday has always been virtually nonexistent in my life.  I spent last fourth of July in France which was pretty weird but I digress.


I guess for me, this area would be my desk.  My desk is where I write all blog posts.  I also have a bulletin board right in front of me so I have goals, art, and photos to look at.  I am both driven and relaxed when I sit at my desk which for me is the perfect combination.
AMANDA

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

July 3

Learn how to do something for your car that you don't already know how to do.  It is scary to feel helpless.


I am not exactly car savvy.  Just last week, I got really lost, scratched the car, and subsequently burst into tears.  At other times, though, I can be calm.  Recently my car was doing this weird wheel lock thing where reverse and the steering wheel didn't work (a particular nightmare whenever you are parallel parked).  However, I was able to stay calm and read the manual to figure it out.  I think it is all about keeping a cool head and knowing you will be able to figure it out.  Now to take my own advice...
AMANDA

Monday, July 2, 2012

July 2

Do not buy anything else that you don't absolutely love.


Today I am volunteering at the local library so this post has to be pretty short.  I feel like I should mention that because be surrounded by books always make me happy.  Anyway, Brie is not responding so you will be stuck with me for even longer.


I don't really do this with clothes, but if I go into a book store, I will come out with a pile of books.  The problem with this, of course, is that I haven't read them yet so I don't know if I will like them.  Currently, I have an entire collection of Charles Dickens novels for god knows what reason.  I am going to try to take this advice to heart.
AMANDA

Sunday, July 1, 2012

July 1

Think about a goal you have.   Write down all the happy results that will come with achieving this goal.


I really like this one; I think it is a great way to get motivated.


I plan on watching all 1001 movies in 1001 Movies You Must See Before You Die.

  • I will have been exposed to different perspectives
  • I will be a great movie conversationalist and be able to give advice to people on what they should watch
  • I will have stuck with a long term goal all the way to the end
  • I will have written 1001 movie reviews which is great practice in writing
  • I will have accomplished something off my bucket list
AMANDA